Day to day time moves on.  Whether we are paying attention or not, the passing of the day continues.  And there is no going back.  What is done, is done.  The decisions and actions taken yesterday cannot be undone.  It may be possible to modify the outcome of those decisions, but history does not change. 

Regret is a powerful emotion.  It is defined as a feeling of sorrow or remorse for an act, fault, or disappointment; a sense of loss.  Everyone has regrets to some degree I suppose.  And sometimes, if you dwell long enough, regrets can smother you, and literally stifle your ability to move forward.  It is easy to fall into the “what if” trap, to play every scenario through in our minds to somehow try to correct the ills of the past.  What if I had studied harder?  What if I had taken a different job?  What if I had saved more money?  What if I had chosen more wisely?  What if? What if?  We can go on imagining forever how our lives would be, could be different if we had just done things differently.  But in the end history remains behind us, full of lessons to be learned and wisdom to be gleaned, but firmly fixed in time; unchangeable.

Photo taken by Kimberleigh Forrester

How do we overcome?  How do we rise above?  How do you hold regret at bay and move forward into an new reality?  Every new day we face a proverbial doorway.  Like a tourist on the city streets we pass many opportunities to explore, new places, new adventures, new avenues to follow, new possibilities to seek.  Each doorway holds it’s own challenges.  Some are open like a breezeway, ready to be passed through.  Some are closed, waiting for a gentle push to open.  Some are locked, but invite us to knock and seek entrance.  Some are barred, locked and alarmed, forbidding us to seek passage.  Each in it’s own way holds a mystery, a secret, a gateway to the future.  Each calls to us, inviting entry; inviting passage to a new place.

Everyday we pass through a portion of life.  We can sit on the park bench of regret, immobilized by the things that we cannot change.  We can wander the fallow streets as a stagnant tourist, admiring the accomplishments of others.  Or, we can walk up to the doorways before us, take measure of the cost to enter, and choose a new way.  Not every new thing will be easy.  Some pathways will be clearly blocked and difficult.  The greatest treasures are nearly always locked away for safe keeping; locked behind a door that has a key.  Choose your doorway.  Try the lock.  Request entrance.  Find the key.  Take hold of the future.  Let go of the past.  Enter and start anew.
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